• Are you tempted to cheat? You are not alone. Read this to dig deeper into why you might feel like cheating on your spouse.
    For the Wife,  Infidelity,  Struggles

    Are you tempted to cheat on your spouse?

    It wasn’t long after I got married that one of my friends got a divorce. I knew their marriage was in trouble…but divorce!? I was so confused. But then I heard the truth…she’d met another man. A “nice” man she worked with (who isn’t really nice if he stole another man’s wife). One who “listened” to her. She’d been tempted to cheat and succumbed to that temptation. I’m going to be honest. I judged her. Harshly. I would NEVER do that! It’s easy to judge someone when you are first married. Totally in love. Smitten. Hubby can do no wrong. But chances are, if you are reading this, you might…

  • What should your response be when sex feels like a chore? Should intimacy be required or inspired?
    For the Wife,  Sex,  Struggles

    What to Do When Sex Feels Like a Chore

    As I flush the toilet, I hear my husband say, “Get naked.” There is nothing more sexy than the flush of the toilet, right? “This is mercy sex,” I said half-joking as I’m undressing. Sometimes sex feels like a chore. “Awww…,” he said, a little hurt. “Sex should be inspired, not required,” I said. “Would a back rub inspire you?” he asked. “It couldn’t hurt,” I respond back to him. Fast-forward and I’m sitting with a bowl of ice cream while watching the latest episodes of my favorite TV show. It’s been a long day and I just want to veg-out. But I feel the still small voice of God saying, “I miss you.” It’s been…

  • Sometimes we need a little reminder to do nice things for our husbands. Sometimes those nice things can do something on the inside of us. Read the real reason why you should write a thank you letter to your spouse.
    Communication,  For the Husband,  For the Wife

    Why You Should Write a Thank You Letter to Your Spouse

    As the end of my sixth pregnancy grew near, I felt a sense of entitlement rising. Them: “Mommy, will you pick up the spoon I dropped?” Me: “NO! Don’t you know it hurts for me to bend!” Him: “Hey, hon. Are you going to the grocery store tonight?” Me: “Ugh…I guess.” I dreamed of a tropical vacation — by myself. Wait. Not by myself. With housekeeping and room service attendants. Instead I was given another reason to take my children to see their pediatrician. The nurses and I have had regular standing weekly appointments for years now. But as I awoke one morning, my husband was busy getting ready AND…

  • When you are married, date night doesn't have to be boring. Married couples should be having the most fun! Here's how!
    Date Night Ideas,  For the Husband,  For the Wife

    10 Hacks to Put the Fun Back into Date Night This Weekend

    Dating in Marriage Isn’t the Same as Dating When You Aren’t Married I love my husband. We’ve been married since 2003. We go on dates, we laugh and have fun., but it’s not the same. It’s nice to get out of the house but dating just doesn’t have the allure that it once did. Am I alone? I doubt it. If so, praise the Lord! Things I need to be doing + Feeling that the date might be lackluster = Planning Dates Feels Like Chore I want to fix that. Scientifically, I’ve read that our bodies react to a new person in our lives (aka our relationship with our spouse pre-marriage)…

  • No one said marriage would be easy, but there are some key things that people that have been marriage for decades know. Here they are!
    For the Husband,  For the Wife

    How to Stay in Love Forever and Ever

    Sometimes Google can shed light on the heartbeat of the population. Just start typing in words and viola! Suggestions start popping up. Sometimes those suggestions are obvious. Type in the words “how to…” during election season and “how to register to vote” will appear. Sometimes they are funny. When I type “why do…” the suggested response is “why do we yawn?” But sometimes those Google suggestions are startling and scary. Like when I type in the words “my marriage is…” dead killing me over falling apart We might not think that’s such a big deal until we start asking why is do those words not conjure up suggestions like: My marriage…

  • Before we married, male friendships were acceptable, but what about after? Here are 10 reasons why married women should not have male friends.
    For the Wife,  Infidelity,  Struggles

    Why Married Women Should Not Have Male Friends

    On a mission-field-bound plane, we started talking. We shared a lot in common: age, love for Jesus, and an adventurous spirit. Perfect fit, right? But among our similarities, included marriage…and kids. Despite my efforts to push it down this inappropriate attraction, I could feel it blooming. And it didn’t help that he was cute: surfer-boy-with-dreadlocks cute with an ounce of bad-boy-gone good. Since this wasn’t the first time I had a male friend while married, I knew that “keeping it completely platonic” was a joke. Marriage is Serious Business, Friendships Come Second Marriage is a serious commitment. We have to treat it with respect. Many women believe they can continue…

  • Many wonder if married women can have male friends or not. Here are some great questions to ask to see if your marriage can withstand a male friendship.
    For the Wife,  Infidelity,  Struggles

    The Male Friendship Test for Married Women

    Maybe you just got married to the “love of your life” and are wondering if your “male best friend” is appropriate anymore. Maybe your husband is expressing concern over your male friendship. Maybe you’ve been married a while and are developing a male friendship at work but feel concerned it’s not okay. Whatever the reason, I’ll give you the “male friendship test for married women” to help you make a decision whether or not you should rethink male friendships. The Five Tests a Male Friend MUST Pass Before He Can Be Friends With a Married Woman Test #1 I discovered this “male friendship test for married women” by accident. Soon…

  • Can a married woman have male friends? While there is no hard and fast rule, here is a challenge to married women to reconsider having close male friends.
    For the Wife,  Infidelity,  Struggles

    5 Reasons Why Married Women Should Rethink Male Friends

    Many times my husband and I sit at dinner with another married couple. My husband and I engaged in conversations with the both of them throughout the evening. On occasion, my friend must excuse herself to attend to some matter. And even rarer occasion, my husband needs to do something at the same time, leaving me in the presence of a friend’s husband. Most times, the conversation continues without a hiccup and my husband or friend will return within minutes and reignite their contribution to the gathering. If we are left alone for more than a few minutes, in those moments I will make an excuse to leave the vicinity. I believe removing yourself from an…

  • When you are struggling in your marriage, you might be tempted to say "I married the wrong person"...but here's why you have to stop that TODAY!
    For the Husband,  For the Wife,  Struggles

    Why You Should Stop Saying You Married the Wrong Person

    “I married the wrong person.” It’s a common sentiment when a husband or wife finds themselves in an unhappy marriage. When a marriage gets difficult, we want to believe that we’ve made one huge mistake a looooong time ago rather than accept responsibility for the hundreds of small mistakes we’ve made and ARE still making every day. Everyone Always Thinks THEY Are the Exception to the Rule “But you don’t understand that…” “My situation is different because…” These are often the words that fall from the lips of those in a painful marriage. The truth is everyone always thinks THEY are the exception to the rule. Everyone. Why? Because it…